Perfect for the start of a new year – start where you are.
Goal: the object of a person’s ambition or effort; an aim or desired result.
Resolution: a firm decision to do or not do something.
Some people set goals, some people set resolutions for the new year, and some people do both. For me, the connotation of “resolution” is different from goal – or at least it can be. For me a resolution is a “New Year’s Resolution,” something set for what you want to do in the new year (or even stop doing in the new year). A goal, on the other hand, can be a longer-range activity. Perhaps there is no real difference or my interpretation is wrong. At any rate, I have personally found it more helpful to set goals rather than resolutions.
To set my goals (long term and short term), I consider different areas of my life:
- Soul or Spirituality
I also consider both long-term and short-term goals. I don’t like to look too far ahead so I might set five-year goals, three-year goals, and one-year goals. Those can all typically be broken down into smaller goals, which will be easier to work into monthly goal lists, as well as weekly goal lists.
Once goals are broken down like that, it is easy (or easier) to see what steps can be taken daily to move closer to achieving goals.
Things to remember when setting goals:
- Make sure you have goals that will make you stretch. If they are all immediately do-able, you won’t feel you’ve really achieved anything once you’re done.
- Make sure that you are fairly reasonable. For example, if you are 40 and out of shape, the goal “Become an NFL running back” isn’t really something you can expect to accomplish.
- Keep your goals where you can see them regularly. It can help keep you motivated.
- Review weekly or at least monthly to see any progress you’ve made, and also to determine where you need to refocus.
- Reward yourself for achievements, even if it is a small reward.
- Set goals that motivate you – if you aren’t motivated by them, you won’t work hard to achieve them or even follow through on them.
- Have someone hold you accountable – basically, TELL someone what your goals are and have them check with you periodically.
- Keep your goals written down. Just the act of writing them down reinforces your goals.
Just for kicks and giggles, I decided to see how many different types of journals I could come up with that a person could keep. There is a lot of benefit to be had from keeping a journal – the regular type. I’d imagine that you could get a lot of benefit from many of these. This is my complete list. Do you have any additions? If so, feel free to add them in the comments.
- Time capsule
- Dream journal
- Exercise journal
- Response to specific event (i.e., birth, marriage, disaster)
- Meditation or spiritual
- Thematic (i.e., on a theme such as values, topics you’re studying, et cetera)
Intro: #HighFunctioningMeans – and its siblings, #LowFunctioningMeans and #FunctioningLabelsMean are trending on Twitter right now. For insight into what neurodiverse people really think of functioning labels, I suggest you check those tags out. I participated in the hashtag, and in my usual verbose way, I realized that I’d completely flood it if I posted all that’s in my brain, but I’m perseverating on it so I decided to turn it into a post.
Content note: There are some offensive views I’ve written about in a first-person sense for reasons of satire. Content note for ableism and abuse.
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I am not affiliated with any of these websites. I have simply found them in my internet wanderings and found them interesting or helpful.
This is a brief list of resources that I have found through my journey as a special needs parent. I’ve tried to include mostly general sites, rather than those focused specifically on my daughter’s own health issues (epilepsy and autism), but there are a number relating to autism specifically. Also, I should note that I am located in the United States and my sources tend to be as well. However, I hope that the information contained in these resources can help ANYONE or provide ideas of sources for help in other areas. *In addition, I should note that I am not affiliated in any way with any of these sites. These are just sites that I’ve found as I explored.*
- Support Groups
- “Schuyler’s Monster: A Father’s Journey” by Rob Rummel-Hudson
- The Journal of Best Practices: A Memoir of Marriage, Asperger Syndrome, and One Man’s Quest to Be a Better Husband by David Finch
- Shut Up About Your Perfect Kid by Gina Gallagher
- The Special Needs Parent Handbook by Jonathan Singer
- Autism Parenting Magazine
- Parenting Special Needs
- Exceptional Parent
- Thrive Magazine